There have been anecdotal reports and research findings that suggest people, particularly young women, do feel pressured into having anal sex when they dislike it. Here, anal sex is presented as painful, degrading and risky.However, if you are relaxed, using a lubricant, using dental dams for rimming, and using condoms to cover his penis or sex toys youre using for penetration (use a new one for different places mouth, vagina or bum and stopping if anything is uncomfortable, then.As its often linked with men who have sex with men, disapproval of anal sex can be caused by internalised (or overt) biphobia or homophobia; or HIV stigma. Or the link with anal sex, bums and poo also stops it appealing to people who might.People of all genders and sexualities can enjoy anal sex. Just as they can also never want to try it, or decide to give it a go but find it isnt for them. Health risks? There are always risks with anal sex (as there are with.For the record, there are plenty of gay men who dont enjoy anal at all and never do it. Wanting to penetrate a partner or be penetrated is not a sign a man is gay or bi.Any kind of touching or penetration youre coerced or forced into that hurts you physically and emotionally is wrong and understandably liable to leave you feeling upset. There are also those who see anal sex as in itself as degrading.If, however, you still dont feel reassured you can get more information about safer anal sex via Tristan Taorminos. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. And if youre under 25 you can get free advice (and condoms and dams) from Brook.Or it could be theres a physical reason for the discomfort on penetration or the subsequent numbness. Ensuring youre up to date with smear tests and having a checkup at a GU clinic if there might be any chance you could have an STI would be.You can also potentially pass on bacterial infections like e-coli or salmonella through rimming or putting fingers, sex toys or a penis in your bum and then into your vagina, or either of your mouths.I dont want to talk you into something you dont like, but if vaginal sex has always been a source of physical discomfort it might be worth finding out why, rather than dismissing it. It could be that past partners havent been as attentive or.Ask questions While enjoying anal is evidently your preference and choice, I did want to pick up on why you dont like vaginal sex. You say. Its not especially painful, I just feel mostly numb during it and it feels a bit icky.So that might also tally with what you were told. However, its a cause for concern if someone is being pressured into any kind of sex they dislike or find painful. This is not unique to anal.